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The biggest danger of a covert narcissist is how long they can go undetected while still wreaking havoc. If you can relate... what made it hard for you to see the truth sooner? 👇
(I'll put mine in the comments 💬)
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You finally stop playing the game… and suddenly, everything changes. 💪
That’s what Thursday's video is really about. And the idea came from one of YOU in the comments:
“I went from pulling the slot machine lever to sitting at the accountability table.”
That line hit me... not just because it was clever, but because it captured something I hadn’t quite put into words yet.
I’ve talked about slot machine logic before... intermittent reinforcement, the highs and lows that keep you hooked.
But that comment pointed to something else: *The moment you realize you’re done playing.*
After the video went up, someone else added another layer:
“Don’t you mean trapped in Hotel California?”
It made me realize how much meaning lives in these metaphors... *AND how much this community adds to the conversation.*
Here's the video behind those comments (feel free to pop in and drop your own creative metaphors). https://youtu.be/RqpqRAAnViU
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When did you first realize something felt off — even if you couldn’t explain it?
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You felt it in your gut... You saw the signs.
But some truths are just too heavy to hold all at once.
Whether it was the way they changed overnight, the excuses you made for their silence, or the hope you held onto because it hurt too much to let go… you’re not alone.
💬 Drop yours below—only if you’re ready. No pressure. Just space for honesty.
#narcissisticabuse
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Have you ever gone miles 🚗 out of your way to help someone else avoid the very same pain you once faced? Or maybe you’ve made difficult choices because you knew in your heart it was the right thing to do?
But then… people ended up questioning your motives and integrity anyway? 🤷♀️
Yeah, me too. And I don’t regret a thing. Here’s why…
Standing in your integrity is always the right answer. When you can do that, you don’t need to explain a thing. People can see it or not. That’s their choice. 👍
And that old saying that THEIR beliefs are a reflection of who THEY are is true, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re bad people or that they don’t have integrity themselves (unless they're purely telling lies to hurt you).
What it means is that they’re basing their current thoughts, reactions and fears on a culmination of their own life experience (again, not much to do with you). And this is ESPECIALLY true when they’ve jumped to conclusions about you or a situation. It's also true when they've bought into the lies of a #smearcampaign 🙄
So when someone is wrong about you, it may be helpful to think of it this way:
*Their past experiences are clouding their current reality. And THAT has nothing to do with you.*
After all, the story they've woven about you is their own. Let them keep it. 🎤
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I remember the moment it finally clicked for me.
I had been reading an article about the trauma bond and it was like a lightbulb went off - the cycle of abuse they described was exactly what I had been experiencing.
I thought back through my relationship and so many painful memories suddenly made sense.
❌ The constant doubting of my own self worth…
❌ The rug constantly being swept out from under my feet…
❌ The push-pull that I’d later come to know as the cycle of narcissistic abuse…
And it was all covertly hidden under a guise of love.
In that instant, I FINALLY was able to admit that all of the toxic mess I endured had a label: *It was abuse*
Once my eyes were open, I knew I had to take back my power. I started educating myself on covert tactics, rebuilt my self-worth, and began building an empowering community to share all I've learned.
It wasn't easy, but with each step I became stronger and more confident. I regained control of my life.
Now, it’s become my life’s mission to help others realize they don't have to suffer in silence.
You have the power to transform your situation. But you don't have to do it alone.
And you don’t have to waste time explaining reactive abuse tactics, subtle gaslighting, the Jeckyll/Hyde personality shifts to anyone…
You don't have to convince anyone of what you've endured...
*I FULLY understand.* And I will always be in your corner.
For a limited time, I'm offering a discounted rate on my personalized coaching program to support you on your journey to healing. Let's connect so you can:
✅ Find validation and support without judgment
✅ Learn to set boundaries that repel toxic people
✅ Develop strategies and techniques to help you process and heal emotional wounds
✅ Learn coping strategies to deal with the aftermath of narcissistic abuse
✅ Rediscover your inner worth
Spaces are limited, so click below to claim your $100 discount before it expires: www.commonego.com/coaching
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Have you ever heard of the Myth of Sisyphus?
Sisyphus was a cunning and deceitful king. As punishment, he was condemned to an eternity spent trying to push a boulder over the summit of a mountain.
But here’s the clincher…
JUST when he was about to reach the summit, he’d lose grasp of the boulder and it would roll all the way back down to the bottom of the hill.
And he had to start all over again.
Each time… hoping that he would make it.
Each time… JUST falling short
Does this story remind you of anything?
If you’ve ever tried to make a narcissist happy, you’ve been rolling that boulder uphill – only to watch it fall back down. Every. Single. Time.
People pleasers are very likely to end up in relationships with narcissists because narcissists need someone to believe that boulder can reach the summit.
The narcissist needs someone to believe that they can be happy.
But if you’ve been through it, you probably realize that making a narcissist happy is about as possible a feat as Sisyphus summiting the mountain.
It's a never-ending cycle of trying to please them, hoping for their approval or love, and then feeling drained and unappreciated. But here’s the difference.
Sisyphus deserved his punishment. YOU DO NOT!
And that's why I want to offer you something that can make a real difference.
It's a FREE workbook is designed to help you understand where you stand on the people-pleasing scale and, most importantly, how to put an end to those draining habits. www.commonego.com/peoplepleasing
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🌟 Embrace Your Worth 🌟
You are ALLOWED to raise the stakes in your life. You are worthy of love, respect, and genuine connection. You have the power to set boundaries that protect your heart and your soul. And those who truly care about you will respect and honor them. 🙏🤝
You can rebuild your life on a foundation of self-love, self-worth, and self-respect. 📝🌟
Remember, you are not alone on this journey. Comment below to share your support for everyone who may be struggling right now, and let's heal together. 🤗❤️
Today, we rise stronger, wiser, and more determined than ever. 🌄💪
#NarcissisticAbuse #Boundaries #Empowerment #YouAreWorthy #HealingJourney #SelfLove
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Are you ready to break free from emotional abuse for good? I can help.
You deserve to feel empowered, happy, and free - but getting there after an abusive relationship takes work. I've been there too, and created customized coaching programs to guide you through healing.
My 1:1 coaching provides a judgment-free space to process trauma, identify negative patterns, rebuild your self-worth, and transform into the best version of yourself. I'll equip you with the tools and support needed to stop reliving the past, reclaim your strength, and create the life you want.
My proven techniques will help you trust yourself and your instincts again. Say goodbye to relationship toxicity and reclaim your life. You are so worth it.
Let's connect to discuss how personalized coaching can facilitate your healing journey. The time for feeling stuck and struggling alone is over. A brighter, more joyful future awaits.