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Andy Frisella
Posted 21 hours ago

LEARN TO CUT THE DEAD WEIGHT

Achieving anything of true significance is hard enough on its own.

Don't make it harder by carrying dead weight.

Every person who drains your energy...

Every habit that doesn't serve your vision...

Every distraction that pulls you away from your goals...

Every story you tell yourself that keeps you small...

Cut it out.

All of it.

You only have so much energy.

...and to think you're going to win with 60-80% of the energy you could have while your competition has 100%...

That's arrogant.

Winners are extremely selective with who and what they allow in their lives.

If you're serious about reaching your goals...

You should be too.

If it doesn't contribute to your vision...

If it doesn't make you stronger...

If it doesn't move you forward...

It doesn't belong.

Period.

You can't run at full speed with dead weight on your back.

Cut it out.

Your success depends on it.

#100to0

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Andy Frisella
Posted 1 day ago

YOUR DECISIONS CREATE YOUR OUTCOME

Cultivating the ability to make conscious decisions that align with your long-term goals when it’s inconvenient or seemingly impossible is the ultimate key to creating the life you want.

Without that ability … you are fucked.

Life isn’t going to ask if you feel like it today…

…it’s going to punch you in the mouth and expect you to keep moving.

It doesn’t stop to ask if you’re okay.

It doesn't let up just because you think it’s unfair.

No. It goes in for the kill.

Then it proceeds to step on your throat harder and harder until you fight back or die.

That's the game.

If you’re ability to execute is tied to how motivated you feel...

You’re already finished.

Literally NOTHING can save you.

Everyone says they want to win…

Everyone has goals…

…but 99% of people collapse the second it gets uncomfortable.

They fold when it’s raining.

They tap when they’re tired.

They bitch out when it’s hard.

…and then cry about why nothing changes.

They don’t have a strategy problem.

They have a discipline problem.

They keep making decisions that feel good right now at the cost of everything they say they want later.

That’s why they stay stuck.

That's how the game works and nobody gets to change the rules.

You don’t get to cheat the process and still collect the result.

You either become the kind of person who does what’s required no matter what…

Or…

You settle for the watered-down version of your life that your weaker self can tolerate.

That’s the war.

It plays out every day in the smallest decisions:

What you eat.

How you train.

How you speak.

What you allow.

What you ignore.

What information you consume.

Who you surround yourself with.

How you move.

Whether or not you choose to be honest with yourself.

You think those choices don’t matter?

THEY'RE THE ONLY THING THAT HAS EVER MATTERED.

You not understanding that to the core of your soul is why you are losing.

Because at the end of the day…

If you can’t make the right decisions … you can’t create the right outcome.

Discipline is the foundation to anything worthwhile.

#100to0 #75HARD

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Andy Frisella
Posted 4 days ago

BUILD YOURSELF FIRST

You can't be everything for everybody.

It's impossible.

Quit trying to be.

If you want to make a real impact on the people around you...

You have to be everything for yourself first.

If you aren't working to become your undeniable best...

You can't be anything for anybody because you'll have nothing to give.

No lessons.

No experiences.

No skills.

It's that simple.

You can't lead from a place of weakness.

Build yourself first.

Pursue your own true potential first.

Only then will you have something of true value to offer others.

You can't give what you don't have yourself.

#100to0

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Andy Frisella
Posted 5 days ago

YOU'RE NOT BROKEN

It’s Men’s Mental Heath Awareness month.


My feed has been filled with nice, wholesome “nobody understands the silent struggle of men” and “check in on your strong friends” posts.

Honestly, as someone who has had real struggles with mental health at different points of my life…

As someone who has experienced real violence and real trauma being stabbed in the face at 23 years old, almost dying and then living with permanent facial paralysis and disfigurement.

As someone who had pushed through a million other things thrown at me.

…and as someone who has thought about checking out so many times I can’t explain. I’d like to share what had helped me more than anything.

It’s very simple:

Get out of your fucking feelings and get into the game.

That’s it.

Come to terms with some of these very factual truths:

You’re not broken.

You’re bored.

You’re not sick.

You’re soft.

You’re not “burned out.”

You’re just living like someone who forgot they were built to kick ass.

A big reason you feel like shit is because you keep avoiding the work you know you need to do.

It’s not burnout.

It’s not bad luck or your zodiac sign.

It’s not because you didn’t go to enough therapy.

It’s the weight of your own excuses finally collapsing on your chest.

That pressure you feel?

That anxiety that won’t go away?

That low grade misery you’ve been calling “stress”?

That’s your potential screaming at you because you’re sitting still while everything inside you is begging you to fucking move.

You weren’t made for the couch.

You weren’t made for the scroll.

You weren’t made to be coddled, medicated, numbed, and pacified.

You were built to build.

Tolead.

To suffer for something meaningful.

To push past comfort while everyone else rots in it.

You don’t need affirmations.

You don’t need more “self-awareness.”

You need self-respect.

…and self-respect only comes from action.

So yeah…the reason you feel down right now?

It’s because you know you’re capable of more and you’re not doing a fucking thing about it.

Stop overanalyzing your emotions like they’re sacred truths.

They’re not.

They’re signals.

…and right now, they’re telling youthat you’re wasting your fucking life.

So fix it.

Not with more talk.

Not with another post.

Not with some pity party in your own head.

Not with more journaling or touching of the grass.

With action.

Real action.

The kind that gets your hands dirty.

The kind that hurts a little.

The kind that makes you proud because you didn’t tap out today.

You want to feel better?

Become better.

Build the version of you that doesn’t need to escape reality because he fucking owns it.

That doesn’t mean you’ll never struggle.

It means you’ll finally have the strength to do something about it instead of sitting around hoping it passes.

So stop identifying with your emotions like they’re who you are.

They’re not.

You’re not your fear.

You’re not your stress.

You’re not your apathy.

You’re what you fucking do.

So do something worth being proud of.

…and let the feelings catch the fuck up.

Let victim culture swallow everyone else.

You are going to show the world what it looks like to overcome, conquer, build, create and become…

…because that’s who the fuck you are and you understand they need to see it.

It’s a duty.

#100to0

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Andy Frisella
Posted 6 days ago

"WHAT WILL THEY SAY?"

"What will they say?”

This thought has killed more dreams than anything on Earth.

Imagine giving up all your dreams...

All your potential...

All your happiness...

All your wealth...

All your fulfillment...

Everything you could ever build, create or become...

All the people whose lives would benefit from your self-actualization...

Imagine giving all of that up because of what some fucking loser that has zero impact on the world might have to say about it.

That's the ultimate weakness.

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Andy Frisella
Posted 1 week ago

WRITE YOUR STORY OF OVERCOMING

Social media has become a stage for who can cry the loudest.

A contest for who has it the worst.

Who’s the biggest victim…

Who can milk the most sympathy from a crowd of strangers who are barely listening anyway…

It’s pathetic.

Post after post of people begging for attention under the disguise of “being vulnerable.”

Guess what?

Everyone has hard days.

Everyone’s been knocked down.

Everyone’s had shit happen to them they didn’t deserve.

Your pain isn’t special.

Your struggle isn’t unique.

Your sad story doesn’t make you interesting.

It makes you common.

You’re not a hero for surviving normal human experiences.

You got hurt?

So has everyone.

You failed?

So has everyone.

You’re tired, frustrated, broken?

Join the fucking club.

That doesn’t make you different.

That makes you human.

What makes you different is what you do about it…

Losers compete over who has it the worst.

They bond over shared struggle but never fucking move past it.

They wear their wounds like name tags and wonder why no one respects them.

Winners don’t do that.

Winners don’t sit around comparing trauma.

They don’t beg for likes over hard times.

They fight.

They build.

They transform.

They take the pain and turn it into pressure that fuels the next chapter.

Because they know…

The only story anyone cares to hear is the one where you overcome.

So quit posting about how hard it is.

It’s hard for everyone.

It’s called life.

Take the hit.

Deal with it.

Leverage it for the lesson.

Win with it.

…and if you really want to inspire someone…

Don’t cry about your situation...

Conquer it.

…and tell them how you did it.

#100to0

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Andy Frisella
Posted 1 week ago

EXECUTION IS ALL THAT MATTERS

You will have good days.

You will have bad days.

This is an unavoidable fact of life.

It's also the reason why most people never win in anything they do.

When the bad days come around...

They allow their mood to dictate their execution.

Instead of facing and overcoming the obstacles, challenges, and struggle they're presented with on these days...

They sit on their hands and bitch.

A lot of them even struggle to execute on their good days.

So let me ask you...

What would your life look like if you didn't only execute to a high standard on your good days...

But every day regardless of how you feel?

How much more progress could you make?

How much further could you go?

If you truly want to win in life...

You must understand that your mood is irrelevant.

Your execution is.

Nothing else matters.

Nothing at all.

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Andy Frisella
Posted 1 week ago

HAPPINESS IS BUILT

One of the most destructive lies being shoved down your throat is that you’re entitled to happiness.

Bullshit.

You are not owed happiness just because you exist.

You don’t get to breathe air and expect fulfillment.

You don’t get to show up half assed

and expect peace of mind to land in your lap and do a little dance.

That’s not how this works.

You don’t “deserve” to feel good about your life if you’ve been behaving in ways that make you hate who you see in the mirror.

You don’t “deserve” to feel proud

when you haven’t done a single thing worth being proud of.

Real happiness is earned.

It’s bought with pain.

Discipline.

Consistency.

Sacrifice.

You want to feel good in your body?

Then earn that right.

Lift. Train. Eat like someone who gives a fuck.

You want to feel confident in your bank account?

Then stop buying shit you can’t afford and build the fucking skillset required to win.

You want to be proud of the person in the mirror?

Then stop pretending and become someone who can’t be ignored.

These aren’t affirmations.

These are earned rights.

And no, your past doesn’t excuse your laziness…

Your trauma doesn’t justify your excuses.

Your “story” doesn’t buy you peace.

You don’t get to blame your parents…

Your job…

Your ex…

Your upbringing..

…or society.

Everyone has a fucking story.

…and deep down you already know why you’re not happy.

You’re living beneath your potential

and trying to make it feel okay.

…but you can’t lie to yourself forever.

You know when you’re cutting corners.

You know when you’re full of shit.

You know when the way you’re living doesn’t match the life you say you want.

…and that gap is why you’re miserable.

Not the world.

Not your boss.

You.

Happiness isn’t found.

It’s built.

Through action.

Through standards.

Through waking up and choosing to stop being a fucking liability to your own future.

If you’re unhappy right now…this is why.

You haven’t earned it.

Fix that.

Today.

…or keep being a miserable, unfulfilled human who spends the rest of their life wondering “what if…?”

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Andy Frisella
Posted 1 week ago

HOLD THE LINE FOR YOURSELF

Beware of people who are incapable of apologizing.

Who are incapable of admitting they were wrong.

Who would rather twist the storythan take responsibility.

Because it’s not just pride.

It’s a fracture in character.

…and if you stay around it long enough it will start to fracture you.

These people don’t want truth.

They want control.

They need to be right, not because they are, but because being right protects the illusion that they’re the good guy.

That illusion…

It feeds their ego.

It keeps their world intact.

It makes them feel powerful without ever having to grow.

So when they screw up?

They won’t own it.

They’ll flip it.

They’ll deflect.

They’ll say anything or do anything to convince you that you were the problem.

…and if you’re not careful?

You’ll believe it.

You’ll start questioning your gut.

You’ll start analyzing every word you say.

You’ll start wondering if you’re the broken one because every conflict ends with you carrying weight that was never yours.

That’s how dangerous they are.

It’s not always loud…

It’s not always violent…

Sometimes it’s quiet…

Strategic.

Disguised as “I just want to talk” when what they really want is to win the narrative.

They don’t want resolution.

They want celebration.

They want to walk away clean while you’re left bleeding and apologizing for it.

If you keep people like that in your life you need to understand it’s not just toxic…

Its corrosive.

It will drain your confidence.

It will make distort your identity.

It will diminish your self worth.

It will slowly separate you from the version of yourself that used to feel clear, solid, and self-directed.

So pay close attention.

Anyone who needs to be right at the cost of your peace, your voice, your truth isn’t safe to associate with.

Because when it all goes sideways…

…they won’t stand beside you.

They’ll throw you under the bus and stand over you and spin it like they were the hero all along.

You’re not broken.

They just can’t handle the truth without rewriting it.

…and if you realize one of these people is in your life understand they don’t change.

Don’t negotiate.

Don’t try to fix them.

Remove them.

Completely.

Without guilt.

Because if you don’t…

…they won’t just rewrite the story.

They’ll rewrite you.

Remember who the fuck you are and hold the line for yourself.

Nobody is going to do it for you.

#100to0

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Andy Frisella
Posted 1 week ago

LET THEM TALK...

They don’t hate you.

They hate what you expose.

You walk in the room and suddenly they remember what they could’ve been if they didn’t quit on themselves.

That’s what pisses them off.

Not your tone.

Not your confidence.

Not your results.

They hate the fact that you don’t break in the places they still do.

You could be kind.

You could be quiet.

You could be doing everything right and they’d still twist the narrative to make you the villain.

Because in their head…

you’re not a person.

You’re the fucking reminder that they settled…

…that they let go.

…that they got soft.

…that someone else kept climbing while they started defending mediocrity like it was a personality trait.

So they gossip.

They distort.

They project.

They cling to whatever flaw they can find and magnify it through the lens of their own self-hate.

…and if they can’t find one?

They’ll invent it.

Because it’s easier to cancel you

than confront themselves.

Let them talk.

Let them post.

Let them throw rocks from the comfort

of their uninspired little lives.

That’s all they’ve got.

What do you have?

You’ve got drive.

You’ve got dreams.

You’ve got scars that came from actual fucking effort.

You’ve got excitement for the life you are building.

Besides that…

The truth is..

You don’t owe them clarity.

You don’t owe them tone.

You don’t owe them access to the mindset they never earned.

You don’t owe them a motherfucking thing.

Let them stay mad.

Let them choke on your shadow while you keep building a life they’ll never be invited to understand.

They don’t hate you.

They hate the standard you live by.

So raise it.

#100to0

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